Podcast: Better Health While Aging
https://betterhealthwhileaging.net/podcast/bhwa/coping-with-difficult-older-parents-barbara-kane/
Barbara Kane speaks with podcaster and geriatrician Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH, about how to cope with your difficult older parent.
Bethesda Magazine
Self Care Out Loud. There’s power in the spoken word, even if no one else hears. Talking to ourselves can improve focus, motivation.
Time Magazine
“A move to a retirement community comes freighted with emotion. Sorting through a lifetime of possessions, reminiscing, feeling sad and saying goodbye to a house is a necessary part of the grieving process,” says Barbara Kane, a licensed clinical social worker in Bethesda, Md., and author of Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent. “Moving is about the loss of our role as a householder, the one thing we still have control over in the last stages of life,” she notes. “That’s why it’s so tough.”
Newsweek
“In the past few years a nationwide network to help long-distance care givers has begun to evolve. One example is Aging Network Services in Bethesda, Md.”
The Washington Post
“Often, ANS enters at a time when the children have tried to get help but the parent is afraid of it, or refuses it. And sometimes adult children are referred to ANS by their own physicians.”
U.S. News & World Report
“Don’t push it,” says Barbara Kane of Aging Network Services in Bethesda, Md., which provides care for the elderly. ’Wait for another time, use another approach.’ As a last resort, Kane suggests sending a letter. Impressed that their children were concerned enough to put their thoughts on paper, some parents may at last agree to talk.”
Washingtonian Magazine
“Aging Network Services works with adult children to find people and services to lessen the burden on the children. They also have strategies for easing tensions between the generations.”
Bethesda Magazine
“With adult children and parents it’s hard to be objective,” says Kane, who started her business in 1982 when there were just three assisted-living facilities in the area. “People are also living longer, so we’re seeing seniors with more chronic health problems,” adds Kane, who once consulted with a 98-year-old woman who needed help with her 104-year-old sister.”
Better Homes and Gardens
“If you live far away and frequent visits aren’t possible, you might consider engaging Aging Network Services in Bethesda, Maryland, an organization of private practice social workers throughout the U.S. who act as substitute family, doing whatever you would if you could be nearby.”
Chicago Tribune
“Like taffy, you’re stretched and stretched, sometimes just short of snapping. You’re working, you’re running a house and taking care of children. Then the opposing pulls of work and family are strained further for you if your have elderly parents. Some relief is provided by private geriatric social-work agencies such as Aging Network Services Inc., based in Bethesda, Md., which offers aid through a national network of over 300 certified private practice social workers.”
Family Circle
“Private care managers either link clients with the appropriate services or personally provide services on a 24-hour basis, acting as a surrogate child or relative. One such organization, Aging Network Services in Bethesda, Maryland, covers the entire country and offers counseling as well as services.”
